The BEST Way To Get Her Phone Number
By Stephen Nash, author of How To Get A Girlfriend

A guy recently emailed me a GREAT question that stumps everyone I meet. It has to do with a simple challenge, but one that most of you would love to handle better. Let’s hear what he has to say:

“Stephen,

First of all, thanks for all of your solid advice over the years. I am a huge fan of yours, and Mike too. Your dating and fashion advice are number one, as far as I am concerned. Recently, I have improved a lot of my dating woes and am meeting lots of women. However, when it comes time to go for the phone number, I get all tongue-tied and confused. Help me out man! What is the best way to ask for her phone number?

Thanks a lot!

Owen

Los Angeles, CA”

Good question Owen, and thanks for writing us. So, let me guess, you spotted her in the mall, you approached her, you have had a great conversation, but you feel clueless when it is time to take it to the next level and get her phone number? Yep, that problem is common…

Lots of guys get hung up when it comes time to “close the deal”. They don’t know what to say, so often they won’t say anything and just split!

How many times have I heard women exclaim, “Why didn’t he ask for my number? I would have given it to him in a heartbeat!!”

The best way to get her number is, of course, to ask her. If she is into you, it won’t matter how you ask her – she won’t care! However, if you want a solid script to use, which helps you feel prepared – here is the best one yet:

“I have to run, and so do you, but I would love to continue this some other time – what is your number?”

I know, I know…it couldn’t be that easy…

But guess what – IT IS. That’s really it guys!

You graciously tell her that you have to leave, and you let her know that you also realize that she has to go too. Also, by exiting, you indicate to her that you are a busy guy and don’t have all day to chat. Then, you set it up as a continuation of what has already been started. People are less likely to feel uncomfortable continuing something (unless she doesn’t feel comfortable around you) than they are starting something completely anew.

If you don’t get her number with this script, something is wrong with your presentation or conversational skills. Or, maybe she’s just having a bad day…
A guy recently emailed me a GREAT question that stumps everyone I meet. It has to do with a simple challenge, but one that most of you would love to handle better. Let’s hear what he has to say:

“Stephen,

First of all, thanks for all of your solid advice over the years. I am a huge fan of yours, and Mike too. Your dating and fashion advice are number one, as far as I am concerned. Recently, I have improved a lot of my dating woes and am meeting lots of women. However, when it comes time to go for the phone number, I get all tongue-tied and confused. Help me out man! What is the best way to ask for her phone number?

Thanks a lot!

Owen

Los Angeles, CA”

Good question Owen, and thanks for writing us. So, let me guess, you spotted her in the mall, you approached her, you have had a great conversation, but you feel clueless when it is time to take it to the next level and get her phone number? Yep, that problem is common…

Lots of guys get hung up when it comes time to “close the deal”. They don’t know what to say, so often they won’t say anything and just split!

How many times have I heard women exclaim, “Why didn’t he ask for my number? I would have given it to him in a heartbeat!!”

The best way to get her number is, of course, to ask her. If she is into you, it won’t matter how you ask her – she won’t care! However, if you want a solid script to use, which helps you feel prepared – here is the best one yet:

“I have to run, and so do you, but I would love to continue this some other time – what is your number?”

I know, I know…it couldn’t be that easy…

But guess what – IT IS. That’s really it guys!

You graciously tell her that you have to leave, and you let her know that you also realize that she has to go too. Also, by exiting, you indicate to her that you are a busy guy and don’t have all day to chat. Then, you set it up as a continuation of what has already been started. People are less likely to feel uncomfortable continuing something (unless she doesn’t feel comfortable around you) than they are starting something completely anew.

If you don’t get her number with this script, something is wrong with your presentation or conversational skills. Or, maybe she’s just having a bad day…

In any event – keep it simple, and just be sure to ask. And remember, if she likes you, it won’t matter how you say it. So, be sure to be playful, humorous, build a little intrigue, reveal some interesting facts about yourself…cover the basics.

Wishing you the best,

Stephen Nash

Stephen is the author of How to Get a Girlfriend, detailing what it takes to get and keep a girlfriend. He also is a partner in the company CUTTING EDGE IMAGE CONSULTING.
In any event – keep it simple, and just be sure to ask. And remember, if she likes you, it won’t matter how you say it. So, be sure to be playful, humorous, build a little intrigue, reveal some interesting facts about yourself…cover the basics.

Wishing you the best,

Stephen Nash

Stephen is the author of How to Get a Girlfriend, detailing what it takes to get and keep a girlfriend. He also is a partner in the company CUTTING EDGE IMAGE CONSULTING.

Secrets To Powerful Body Language
By: Stephen Nash, author of How To Get A Girlfriend

What is Powerful Body Language? What does your body language say about you? When you walk into a room, what do you think people “read” from your body language?

Try this out – the next time you are with people (perhaps you are right now?...), notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you. Do they appear strong, confident, driven or motivated? Or, do they seem meek, timid, confused, and/or LOST? Can you see a parallel with these ideas and the ideas of being attractive vs. unattractive?? If not, let me spell it out for you…

Guys who have strong, confident body language are ATTRACTIVE Guys who don’t, are UNATTRACTIVE.

Go to a mirror and see for yourself – what kind of body language do you have? Are your shoulders slouched, or are you upright? Do you walk with your head held high, or do you tend to look down?

I remember working with a client of ours a number of months ago. We were in a lounge area, and were enjoying some drinks before going out. I pointed out to him that his body language was pretty closed off – arms and legs crossed – signaling to others that he was not approachable, and was not interested in meeting anyone new.

He agreed to try a little experiment, and change his body language. I told him to uncross his legs, and, more importantly, to uncross his arms. He did, and commented that he felt “weird”.

A few minutes later, a stunning blonde approached us to ask “directions” to a club two blocks away…within minutes she, and her gorgeous Spanish friend, were sitting with us having a blast. Later on that evening, I asked Ms. Stunning Blonde why she asked us for directions. Her answer?

“You guys seemed so open. I also thought your friend was cute, so, you know, what the hell!”

What the hell…

The point of this article is not to convince you that having perfect body language forever ends your challenges with the opposite sex. What it IS intended to convey is the importance of body language and how other people, unconsciously, read it and form impressions about YOU.

If you want more confirmation of this, check out the body language of most of the hottest stars in Hollywood, like Tom Cruise, or Russell Crowe. See how they stand and carry themselves – with power, upright, always looking people directly in the eye.

Now imagine them with a slouch, head down, shifty-eyed….creepy isn’t it??

If you carry yourself with power, other people will assume that you OWN that power internally. If you look them in the eye when you speak, they will assume that you have something of VALUE to say!

Mastering your own body language is critical to your success with women. If you communicate to them that you are insecure, unconfident, and have low self-esteem you will see a LOT of ass….walking away from you.

Clear?

Our program “Natural Attraction” is designed to help you gain mastery of your inner self so that you naturally carry yourself with power and esteem.

We also cover the basics of body language and vocal tonality so that you have the MAXIMUM advantage in any/all social settings.

For now, just notice your body language in different situations – standing, seated, at the bar, on the bus etc. Try to find the most powerful posture you can assume. Isn’t it interesting how this subtle change can cause you to instantly feel stronger and more confident?

If you want to attract and date beautiful women, you need the maximum advantage don’t you? Wouldn’t you like your body language to work FOR you rather than AGAINST?

Check out what else our “Natural Attraction” product offers you by clicking this link. As you do so, check your posture RIGHT NOW – are you filled with confidence and direction?

Do this a few times per day. This will help you understand what you unconsciously broadcast to other people. Also, does your body language change when around attractive women?

It is first critical that you are aware of what your body language says about you, then it is up to you to take the necessary actions to fix it.

Your friend,

Stephen Nash

Stephen is the author of How to Get a Girlfriend, detailing what it takes to get and keep a girlfriend. He also is a partner in the company CUTTING EDGE IMAGE CONSULTING.

How To Get HIM or HER Interested
By: Cucan Pemo, author of Bring Back a Lost Love

Do you wish his eyes be glued on you?

Let me tell you a story. It's a true story.

Just recently, I got interested in a guy. I'm not supposed to share this with anyone, including you, lest my partner gets to know about it. :)

However, being an avid student of human nature and inter-personal relationships, I could not help wondering, what is it (about him, or me?) that has made me attracted to him?

But, don't be mistaken. Until today, we are just very good friends. I still have my partner with me, so I wouldn't want to do anything that will break my relationship with him. We have a common interest though. This is why we click together and always enjoy each other's company, with no expectation from each other.

He had gone through several failed relationships, and we had a talk about this one day over coffee at a cafe. He was hurt that the relationships he had with his ex-girlfriends didn't work out the way he wanted them to. However, that didn't destroy him; instead, in his own words, such experiences make him even stronger.

I realized that I admired his courage and strength to be able to pick himself up even after a heart-breaking experience. In fact, I was inspired by him.

"We had conflicts and disagreements. It didn't work out, everyone of them (his girlfriends) initiated the break-up. I didn't put in the effort to pursue and thus eventually we broke up. I was devastated then. But I'm not going to allow myself to be enveloped in self-pity and sorrow. I put all my attention, energy and focus on my passion, that is, bodybuilding. I realized that, whatever effort, time, money, and energy I had put into bodybuilding, it has all paid off handsomely. I could see the results I want to see. With relationship, it is so different. You cannot control the outcome; you cannot control the other person."

He is so right. You cannot control another person or how he will think and behave. You only have control of your-self, this indirectly implies the power you have in your hands. You CHOOSE whether your circumstance controls you or destroy you; else choose a more positive way of reacting and responding to your circumstances.

I didn't tell him this secret which I have been holding in my heart, that I enjoyed his accompany and going out with him, even training together with him at the gym whenever I can find the time to do it.

I asked myself what had made him seem attractive. The answers I got shocked me further.

(1) He inspired me with his insights about life and relationships. In short, he had what I had been seeking and searching - the answers to some of the tough questions about life and relationship.

(2) I found myself wanting to go out with him often. He was confident about his passion and what he was doing. He was independent, had a character, and was not affected by what others think about whether whatever he is doing is right or wrong. In short, he was of a higher vibrational energy than I.

I realize, and I have been sharing this secret with many of my readers - By becoming interested in MYSELF, my partner becomes more interested in me! If you think it is a paradox. IT is! Many relationship challenges and difficulties often start when one of the couples shift his or her center onto another person, and many people do this unknowingly! Understand that your center is HERE, right now, within you; it is your safe haven and most truthworthy antenna. You do NOT have to search for it in another person!

This is one secret which has worked wonders for those who are willing to take the time to chew on it.

Inspire your partner today!

However, don't stop here. Dale Carnegie has taught that "If you want people to become interested in you, you have to become genuinely interested in others!"

Become genuinely interested in YOUR-SELF! Become genuinely interested in others!

Combine this two, and you might find yourself being swamped with so much attention, you'll have to crack your head to find your own private time.

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"3 Easy Ways to Attract Love Like A Magnet"
by Cucan Pemo, author of Bring Back the Love Of Your Life, a Potent 4 Step Strategy

If you are still single and yearning for that someone special to come into your life, to share your life, and to share all the laughter and joy of being together, there is something you could do to attract your true love like a
magnet!

(1)You must believe you are able to attract true love.

This is important! In order to attract your true love, not just any type of lovers, to come into your life, you have to believe you are able to attract the right person into your life. True love comes to you not because of chance. Instead, it comes to you because of who you are. It comes 'through' you, it does not come to you. You attract the people in your life because of who you are. If you are someone who is always cheery, generous, kind, and hardworking, then it is very likely you will attract people who have one or more of your positive attributes. Whoever you attract into your lives is a reflection of who you are at that moment. Thus if you are someone who is always doubtful of your own ability and capability to meet the right person, then it is very likely you will attract the wrong person into your life!

(2)Love others who come into your life at this moment.

Being loving to others is perfect love, not just wanting love. Open up your heart and give your love to others as well while you are waiting for your someone special to enter your life. When you open up and give more love, more love will return and be given you too. This is the law of give and receive. When you go outside and socialize, do not go with the intention of only wanting to find love, or to find your Mr/Mrs Right. Instead, take an interest in all those that you encounter, be aware of their welfare and needs as well. If you start to take an interest in other people's welfare and needs instead of only your own, more people will be attracted to you. So, detach yourself from the feeling that you want to find that someone special. The right person will definitely come to you one day and be attracted to you because of who you are. He or she might must be around in a corner thinking : "Hey, I want to get to know this person who has so much magnetism and optimism. How can I approach him/her?"

(3)Expect less from other people and give more instead.

As you give more and more love to others, be careful not to become too much focused on your own wants and needs. In wanting or expecting to experience the love we want, we suffer. We crave, and we cling to what we do not have and we even refuse to let go what we have clung to. Your giving should not come with any conditions. Instead, the love you give should want less and less. As your love wants less and less, ironically you will find more love coming your way, even without you asking for it.

Give true love, so that it opens up and embrace the world. Very soon, you will find that someone special entering your life. It is not by chance that this person has entered your life, but you have cultivated the 'seeds' to bring him/her to you, not just any type of person, but the right and true one for you. And after he/she has entered your life, continue to cultivate even more 'seeds' of love for everyone around you, and you will find that you can easily create the 'magical' relationship that you desire effortlessly.

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Why Are Relationships So Difficult??
by Bob Grant, author of The Women Men Adore

A large part of my practice is made up of people interested in relationship advice. Not really by design (I started out working with teenagers), it just sort of worked out that way. Most often when someone comes in they want to know what to do. They request a 5 step plan to fix their problem, and they will be on their way. I must confess, for years I tried that “5 step” type of approach. Reading book after book and experimenting on my clients. While I have personally seen marriages seemingly miraculously healed, it just wasn’t happening every time. The magical formula never came, at least not in the form I had expected.

What I did discover was that relationships are more than meets the eye. As I have mentioned in previous article, if you have suffered any type of injury or trauma as a child, your brain and heart have an overriding goal for you. They will protect you at any cost. Even if it that method of protection causes you pain and loneliness. It is often primitive and deeply rooted. Here is an example. Let’s pretend that I have a client named Alan (I made him up). Alan meets a woman named Cindy. Alan really likes Cindy and proceeds to call her every 5 minutes. When he comes into my office I tell him, “Lets not call Cindy every 5 minutes. Women don’t like that.” The next week he comes back in and says, “Bob, I have improved twice as much. I only called her every 10 minutes.” While I appreciate Alan’s 100% improvement, what Alan needs is to do is improve exponentially and not call Cindy any more than once a week.

You can guess Alan’s reaction; he will grasp his heart as though I stabbed him. This surely can’t be the Lord’s will to abandon something that seems so right? It seems so right to call her, yet those feelings betray him. Every time Alan gets nervous he picks up the phone and calls Cindy. It keeps his anxiety away. Some use cigarettes or alcohol for the same anxiety relief. What I want is for Alan to be anxious. He must allow himself to feel out of control so we can find out what the anxiety is trying to tell him. His feelings will give him insight, if (and this is a big if) he will allow himself to listen to those anxious feelings rather than acting them out. At times the insights occur quickly, other times it takes longer.

What would cause Alan to be so anxious? There may be a variety of reasons. Most likely, he is afraid of being hurt or rejected. While he longs for a relationship, he has also set himself up for failure because he feels that a relationship should feel good...always...forever. His long history of avoiding painful feelings has taught him to be even more afraid of them. Painful feelings are bad things, to run away from. The problem with Alan’s thinking is that relationships, by their very nature, are a bit scary. Once you allow yourself to experience a feeling you like (such as love), all the uncomfortable feelings now also have a doorway out of your heart. It no longer remains suppressed, and it all comes out. Feelings and fears alike that may have been dormant for years now seem to come out at the most inconvenient times.

The reason I am so relationship oriented is that many times individuals misinterpret their fear and anxiety as something wrong with them or with their partner, rather than realizing it is something to work through. It is an opportunity to be free of the very fears they are experiencing. (This in no way involves instances of abuse, or an unhealthily relationship. If it is unhealthy your friends and/or family will gladly point that out to you). If we could learn to stay with our fears rather than acting them out, our heart will learn that it does not need to protect us as it did when we were a child. In time those childhood fears will begin to subside. What now feels unnatural, can in time become effortless.

If you or someone you know feels they are experiencing this type of issue, let them know that there is help. What is happening to them is not unique. There are answers to their questions and fears. Once they discover this, relationships become an opportunity for healing and growth, rather than work.

Visit Bob's Site Here

Thought for The Day: Knowing What You Don't Want
by Roger Mayer for AllDatingTips.com



I was on a forum related to dating and one user had posted the question, "What don't you want in dating?" I found this to be interesting as some find it tough to answer what exactly they want in someone else. If you are able to pinpoint what you do not want in a potential mate, doesn't that help define what you DO want in someone else? It may of course not be exact, but it definitely is a starting guide to narrow your focus so you can concentrate on what you do want.

To Your Success,

Roger Mayer
http://www.AllDatingTips.com

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What Men Want??
By: Bob Grant, author of The Women Men Adore

Actually, it’s pretty simple but most women have the hardest time with understanding men. Deep inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. How many times have men said to their wives, “If you would just trust me.” Many men wonder why it seems so difficult for their wives to do something so seemingly simple. The answer stems from the physiological differences between the sexes.

It begins at birth when little boys are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher levels of testosterone. With testosterone comes the physical strength to both defend themselves from danger and/or run away from a threat. Most little girls don’t have that ability. They don’t have the strength to defend themselves in a physically fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically (or try to). Little girls don’t have that physical option of power. Since a person can only trust from a position of strength, those same little girls will grow up into women who naturally have a more difficult time “trusting” when they feel vulnerable.

So men, when you ask the woman of your choice to simply “trust you,” it’s not that she can’t, she’s just more vulnerable than you. If you want her to trust you, she needs something that will help develop that trust.

Perhaps even a tool or gesture that she can “count on ” until that trust with you is established. Thankfully this tool already exist and is known every woman. What cultivates trust in a woman is a man who consistently keeps his word. Making a promise is meaningless if there is no follow through.

A woman needs to SEE her man fulfill his promises because seeing is always more powerful than hearing. Allow me to illustrate. Imagine someone told you that I was the meanest person they had ever met. For months all you heard was how terrible I treated my family and friends. Then one day you met me and during the course of our meeting you begin to notice that I didn’t seem to be as horrible as you were led to believe. I actually appeared to be rather pleasant. Would you change your entire opinion about me from one visit? Probably not! However, if you saw me respond consistently with kindness and humility over a period of weeks, your opinion of me would begin to change. A paradox has just been established. The kindness you have seen in me for the last few weeks does not match what you have heard about me. All the rumors of how mean I am begin to fade into darkness because of my consistent actions. Over time what you see will replace most if not all of your concerns about my character.

Men, when the woman you love sees your words lining up with your actions, trust will naturally follow. When you don’t keep your word it causes your wife/girlfriend to become fearful. From her perspective, she has entrusted you with her Heart and WANTS to trust you. She simply needs your help in giving you what you want.

Bob Grant has been a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach for 16 years. The majority of my clients are women, who have sought my help in creating successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men. He is the author of the popular ebook, The Men Women Adore.